Sexy

I still love feeling sexy. Feeling sexy after my divorce tastes like a chocolate truffle melting in my mouth.

Recently I walked into Starbuck's and turned a head or two. It was a Saturday morning and I had the attention of a Dad who was there with his young daughter and wife. You know that feeling that someone is watching you? Then you look up and they turn their head away. That's the evidence. They don't want to be caught watching you.

I didn't feel so sexy during the latter part of my marriage. Sexy is delicious. I wish women everywhere the deliciousness of feeling sexy.

Friends in Heels

This past week I went to a networking event with my talented bookkeeper, Paula Pacheco. What a great time we had seeing old friends and meeting new people. Even going to the ladies room was eventful as we shared a toast to each other's business with the mouthwash provided in teeny cups! Settling back into the car after the 2 hour event, we both took off our high heels and began to rub our feet. Networking in heels is a bitch. "If only I could still wear stilettos," she complained. "You can!" I replied, "as long as you're sitting at home, with your feet up on the ottoman." We roared with laughter all the way home. Ahhh, it is good to have fabulous friends.

 

Blessings Abound

This past week I was missing my child and doing my best to contact her by phone. I was able to reach her dad and, in the ensuing conversation, received a huge blessing. He recently moved from one house to another and having done that same thing myself within the last 4 months, I get what a hassle it can be. So I ventured forth in the conversation, asking him how the move was going. Mind you, I was feeling a bit guilty that he'd need to move at all, as I was the one who initiated our divorce several years ago. (Thanks, Saboteur, for rearing your head when I most need you.)

He responded that the move was, like all moves, a hassle. He then shared that Lucy, our daughter's Nanny, had brought 6 people with her from church and they had cleaned his entire house for himself and my daughter. I was touched and after the call cried tears of joy that my daughter is held in the grace of those around her. Again, I'm reminded that Spirit provides, no matter the hard choices we must make.

I later heard from my daughter that a young friend she knows at Lucy's church had come too, and they'd gone to the park as the cleaning began. The picture of a lovely Sunday afternoon for my girl was now complete.

No Humdrum Here

Just when you think life is getting humdrum with the routine, something unexpected happens. Earlier this week I had in depth conversations with two people whom I've known separately as acquaintances for a year or so. The first conversation happened with another Mom at my daughter's school. We were making small talk before we were needed by the teacher and within moments were deep in a conversation about love and relationships. What struck me was that even though we'd been acquainted some time, I didn't really know her story. And what a story! It's amazing that everyone walking around has a story. When I'm in the flow I create the time to hear them!

Then later that same day, I decided spur of the moment to grab a coffee while waiting for my daughter to finish a class. At the counter I ran into a guy I know briefly who has been through a divorce in the last several years. I remembered that I'd run into him several months earlier while on a walk. This synchronicity was so exciting for me. So I asked him if he had time for a chat and before you know it, we were ensconced in the sharing of our divorces, current love lives, and single parenting dilemmas. I felt truly honored that we were able to share our stories and, hopefully, garner support in facing current parenting and relationship ups and downs. I'm still learning that what I need is within reach!